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Absence

One of my former bosses used to always say to people he had not seen in a while, “you are conspicuous by your absence”

And, no… I have not published a blog entry in a few months… partly because I am working on restructuring the format, reworking the content I present, and also I’ve been doing a lot of writing/saving entries… just have not felt the push to post anything.

I also have been thinking about my own image/portrayal… How do I want to be received? How do I want to be remembered? I have a lot of experiences to share, views on things related to life and fitness more specifically… yet, I do not feel this drive to shove my views down the throats of my social media followers and blog subscribers.

I have been posting less, sharing less, taking less photos, talking less… spending more time reading, reflecting, learning, and of course, exercising.  You see, while I know I am completely transparent, honest, and express myself freely… I also realize that not every thought needs to be expressed exactly at the moment in which I think it. Maybe I’m analyzing too much… but the more nonsense I see being put out into the world, particularly on social media… the more inclined I am to remain quiet and focused on the things that truly bring me joy, happiness, a sense of fulfillment.

So have no fear… I have not disappeared… I have not gone anywhere, except the Jersey Shore for 2 days at the very end of the summer (that was the first and only time I felt sand in between my toes in 2015)… Just rethinking EVERYTHING!

~ Namaste

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Visualize

On your quest to that goal you established for yourself, remember to visualize yourself already there.  This is a technique I used often during my competition preparations.  While I would spend time in the mornings doing my cardio, I would often imagine myself standing on stage, posing, smiling, and then being awarded 1st place!  Well, guess what?  It worked!!!  I know you might think that this is fantasy  or day dreaming, but if you truly believe what you are visualizing, you will call it into being!

So, what have you got to lose?  Try it.  Do you want to get that promotion at work?  Visualize yourself in your new office, receiving a paycheck with a higher salary, being recognized for your hard work, having colleagues congratulate you on a job well done, etc… This shouldn’t take the place of the efforts and work required on your part… but start believing the promotion will come!

I found the image below on Bob Proctor’s Facebook page, and I love it.

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Go For It

Taking my own words of advice and putting them to good use… I recently discovered that something in my subconscious was holding me back… and it’s time to just take over, commit to the goals, and get to work.  Very excited to continue working hard and testing my limits.  As we approach the end of 2014, have you figured out what is most important to you?  are you committed to those things?  can you make changes right now to get one step closer?  Think about it, no, really… take some time to reflect. What went as you hoped? What didn’t work out?  and what are you going to do about it?

Go For It.

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My Life

If you looked in my life
And see what I’ve seen…

This song is on the 2nd album Mary J. Blige released in November 1994… I was a Junior in High School and I purchased the cassette tape… and of course put miles of use on my stereo tape player listening to it repeatedly.  This song is particularly special to me.  The lyrics hit me hard at a time in my life when I was dealing with a lot of internal strife, pain, and no outlet.  My family had been ripped apart, flipped on its head, and my heart ached nonstop. I found comfort in blasting music and dancing in my room… Sometimes, I would put on my walkman and just walk up and down the neighborhood streets, praying to God for peace, for a resolution, and for comfort… It wouldn’t come for many years… and I do recall sharply telling people “if you say to me one more time that what doesn’t kill me makes me stronger, I will kick you”… Yea, I had some anger issues.  Now, I listen to this song and feel peace… and gratitude that I had something and somewhere to turn.

It is easy to pass judgment on people, without really knowing what private struggles each is dealing with.  Perhaps being kind, patient and a bit more understanding could go a long way with someone… You just never know.  Hope you enjoy the track.

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Be A Leader

Instead of playing “Follow The Leader” what many people play is “Follow The Follower”… Unknowingly.  Don’t be afraid to be different, be bold, be unique, and think for yourself…. Please watch this video just over 1 minute long, from Earl Nightingale, which summarizes exactly what I am talking about:

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New York

The City… Yes, that’s what anyone in the Tri-State Area calls Manhattan… as if there is one and only city in the world… well, rightfully so there really is only one New York… and nothing like it.  I’ve been a New York girl my whole life.  Born in Long Island, moved to The Bronx, then Westchester, then the Bronx again, and ultimately back in Northern Westchester, where I have lived for the last 20 years.  At various points in my life, I contemplated moving.  I love warm weather and I feel I would thrive in it… but something over all these years has kept me where I am.  Yes, most of my family is in New York, or surrounding areas… but my online training as well as one-on-one training in a gym can be done from anywhere in the world…  and yet still, I’m here.  From where I live, which happens to be quiet suburbs, I can be hiking on a mountain in 30 minutes, walking through crowded Times Square in 35 minutes or swimming in the ocean in 45 minutes…. Pretty amazing isn’t it?  Yea… It really is. <3

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Latina

As I get older, my roots, the blood in my veins, and the music that plays in my heart echo louder and louder… as if my ancestors are reaching out to me from their graves… I have always been very proud of the name Gonzalez and of who I am…  but due to circumstances out of my control I was not immersed in my culture as a child and adolescent… Both of my parents worked very hard to break recurring cycles that passed on from generation to generation, and while I am proud of them both for providing a life for me that was different from each of their respective lives, I always felt disconnected from my culture, from my extended family, and from mi orgullo (my roots).  Now, I’m in my mid-30s, seeking out people to practice my Spanish-speaking skills with and constantly listening to Spanish radio stations, partially to get up to speed with current music, but also to listen to commercials and the DJs between each song to test my comprehension.

It is not easy, but it is so worth it.  Puerto Rican culture is so rich and my family history is something I’m sure I will always have questions about, since I now have only one living Grandparent.  I do wish I was raised bilingual, but if it takes me the rest of my life to get there, so be it.  It’s worth it.

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Questions

What motivates you to wake up each day and do the things you do?

How will you make today better than yesterday?

Is happiness a choice for you or do you feel like it’s something you must seek out?

Do you have goals and if so, when was the last time you reviewed them or reset them?  Are you getting closer to them?

Do you live each day with a purpose?

What type of impact do you want to leave behind?

What will your legacy tell the world about you?

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Solo

Being alone is not the worst feeling. In my opinion, what’s worse is being in a relationship with someone, yet feeling all alone.

It hurts when you are giving someone your all….. And getting little in return. You put this person on a pedestal, usually without him or her earning it… You’re super hopeful… You hold your breathe, you keep your fingers crossed….  And then end up sad when he/she disappoints.

Why does this happen?  What is it about this person delivering mediocrity that you continue accepting and allow to persist?  You’re not happy currently.  You’re holding on to what “might” be… what “could” be… but what currently exists doesn’t even bring you a forced smile.

Constant excuses….

“I’m stressed out.
I’m tired all the time.
I need to do X or I need to go here/there.”

You’re not a priority in this person’s life, not by any means.  Everything comes before you and you have allowed it to be that way.

Know your worth and stand up for yourself.

When someone goes back on his/her word, call that person out on it.  Speak up about how it makes you feel.  Explain that you’re unhappy.  Easier said than done, especially if you don’t have a lot of opportunity to spend time together and the last thing you want to do is fight…

Do people deserve second chances?  Sometimes… yes.  But never ignore your instincts.  Never ignore what your gut is telling you.

At some point in time “POTENTIAL” is not enough.

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Warrior of the Light – excerpt

A Warrior of the Light does not postpone making decisions.

He thinks a great deal before taking action. He considers his training, as well as his responsibilities and duties as a teacher. He tries to remain calm and to analyse each step as if it were of supreme importance.

However, as soon as he has made a decision, the Warrior proceeds: He has no doubts about his chosen action, nor does he change direction if circumstances turn out differently from how he had imagined them.

If his decision is correct, he will win the battle, even if it lasts longer than expected. If his decision is wrong, he will be defeated and he will have to start all over again-only this time with more wisdom.

But once he has started, a Warrior of the Light perseveres until the end.

~ Excerpt from the book Warrior of the Light by Paulo Coelho