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Being alone is not the worst feeling. In my opinion, what’s worse is being in a relationship with someone, yet feeling all alone.

It hurts when you are giving someone your all….. And getting little in return. You put this person on a pedestal, usually without him or her earning it… You’re super hopeful… You hold your breathe, you keep your fingers crossed….  And then end up sad when he/she disappoints.

Why does this happen?  What is it about this person delivering mediocrity that you continue accepting and allow to persist?  You’re not happy currently.  You’re holding on to what “might” be… what “could” be… but what currently exists doesn’t even bring you a forced smile.

Constant excuses….

“I’m stressed out.
I’m tired all the time.
I need to do X or I need to go here/there.”

You’re not a priority in this person’s life, not by any means.  Everything comes before you and you have allowed it to be that way.

Know your worth and stand up for yourself.

When someone goes back on his/her word, call that person out on it.  Speak up about how it makes you feel.  Explain that you’re unhappy.  Easier said than done, especially if you don’t have a lot of opportunity to spend time together and the last thing you want to do is fight…

Do people deserve second chances?  Sometimes… yes.  But never ignore your instincts.  Never ignore what your gut is telling you.

At some point in time “POTENTIAL” is not enough.

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